I need to vent and This seems like a good place to do it for the time being

Alright, I need to get this off my chest.
It took us a couple days to find my Grandfather's obituary and when i finally find it, None of the people who were important to him, other than his direct family, son, sister etc.. So long story short, my grandmother, who was his wife before hand, was not mentioned. My mother wasn't mentioned. (There is a name similar but I'm not sure if that was one of her kids or she got my mom's name wrong.) His grandkids were mentioned in passing as was his great grandkids.

She hasn't liked me and my mother from the beginning. It was thanks to this "New wife" that he alienated my mother and me. When I went to go talk to him she would gatekeep it. To the point she started yelling at me for calling his cell phone, and using reasonable deduction, (she told me he wasn't there) and me being disrespectful. (all I had said was, "This is his cell phone. He has to be near by.") Very calmly. Being 100% civil to her. This was when I was about 12 or 13 years old. I was still getting over losing my grandmother and the fact I just moved across state lines. I had lived with him for the first 9 years of my life. I wanted my grandfather to still be in my life.

fast forward to now, she only added one picture to his obituary and I'm just finding out that the memorial was today. TODAY! What really breaks my heart, is the fact she told my uncle, his son, that he was talking to the family before he left. His late sister, My grandmother, my mom, me, etc. I'm resisting the urge to do anything now but I will not stand idly by while she tries to erase my grandmother and her time with him.

I'm more hurt that our side of the family wasn't mentioned as his family. She pushed us away. She had a dead ass grudge against a 13 year old girl for some stupid reason as to block all contact with her. What the fuck did I do?

I know none of this is my fault but I'm going to get things straightened out and see if i could do it in a way my family would be proud of. (no harming anyone or anything.) At least making my family feel acknowledged in our own grief without her gate keeping him in death.

R.I.P Grandpa

Love you

(Sorry this has to be a first blog. just timing kinda sucks and well, just needed to vent my frustrations